The salon experience

I had worn my hair out for a few weeks and decided to get a protective hair style in for a bit. There's this curly, natural looking extension I usually wear which I install myself. So, I'm sat at home getting my hair done when a friend comes by. He sees me doing my hair myself and at first cannot believe it. He then moves from disbelief to wonder - he wonders why I take all that trouble; would it not be easier and maybe faster to get it done in a salon? He goes a step further to say that I am being stingy and don't care about the survival of the people who do it for a living! (buahahahaha!!) I found that sooooo funny.... but it got me thinking. I am indeed very particular about how my hair is handled (even more so since I've begun to keep it in it's natural state) but I thought maybe

Letter to my Mother

My birth mother

Dear mum,

Today you would have been 68 years old. I never had the pleasure of knowing you because you passed on when I was barely a year old, but only good stories/reports and memories abound. Oh how I would have loved to share your beautiful life with you. I would give anything to have that even now.
I am told I look just like you. I took after you in everything. Not a day goes by that I do not think about you and how it may have been so different had you lived long enough to be my mum today. I cannot honestly say that it is for the best, but I do believe that every single thing in life happens for a reason so someday I may appreciate the reason why you had to leave so early.

If indeed you are able to look down on me, I hope that it is with a smile and that you sometimes feel pride when you do. It has not been easy but I have learnt to carry on (not that I have a choice anyway)
Continue to rest with the almighty as I have no doubt that you are an angel.

Daycare

Daycare in Lagos particularly has probably become a necessity as we now have more working mothers compared with the time when I was of daycare age (I'm not revealing my age don't bother! lol)  I doubt that there was anything like that in my time. These days, mothers need to spend long hours at work and are left with two choices; either leave your child at home with a relatively unknown child minder/house keeper or send the child to daycare where you expect that competent people are on hand to watch over them.

A few years ago, a friend of mine just got a new maid to care for her three year old and for no apparent reason, she didn't feel comfortable with the girl so she decided to install CCTV cameras in her flat. On the very first day

Lagos Taxi

I just remembered an incidence which happened a couple of weeks ago. Hmmm... I had to go out as a matter of urgency and I didn't have my car so I hitched a ride with a friend and planned to take a taxi back home. I would usually call a cab I had used before - someone I know and am sure of. On this Sunday evening however, I didn't see the need as it was to be a very quick trip and only one way. So when I was done, I came out to the road and hailed a cab. The car looked really old and rickety but I didn't fancy standing on the road (a busy one at that) so I quickly climbed in.

As I sat in the cab I felt like the seat was damp but I wasn't quite sure as it had been drizzling all day so I kept my thoughts to myself. Thankfully, the ride home was rather uneventful. On getting to my street though, literally a minute from my gate, there was a small pool of water which we also successfully crossed and I was delivered safely to my gate. However, as soon as I got out of the car, it became obvious that the seat had indeed been damp and had in fact wet my clothes; so as I handed the fare to the driver, I mentioned to him that his seat was damp. Can you guess what his response was? Lol.....okay okay here is what he said "ah! you no thank God say the car no die for that water" Huh??? Like seriously??? These guys are something else! SMH (shaking my head) Lol

Peace

Stay away from Anger.. It hurts ..Only You! If you are right then there is no need to get angry, And if you are wrong then you don't have any right to get angry. Patience with family is love, Patience with others is respect, Patience with self is confidence and Patience with GOD is faith. Never Think Hard about the PAST, It brings Tears... Don't think more about the FUTURE, It brings Fear... Live this Moment with a Smile, It brings Cheer. Every test in our life makes us bitter or better, Every problem comes to make us or break us, The choice is ours whether we become victims or victorious. Search for a beautiful heart not a beautiful face. Beautiful things are not always good but good things are always beautiful. Do you know why God created gaps between fingers? So that someone who is special to you comes and fills those gaps by holding your hand forever. Never forget this advice! Happiness keeps You Sweet, Trials keeps You Strong, Sorrows keeps You Human, Failures keeps You Humble, Success keeps You Glowing, But Only God keeps You Going......Don't ever think you know it all or that you re better than d other person because you do not know what d future holds for that person..........be good at heart!


Culled from Nasir El Rufai's Facebook page. I think its lovely. Enjoy

Perspective

Yesterday, I needed to get my nails done having had them in such a sorry state for a couple of weeks now. (The girl who usually does them has been MIA for at least a week) I happened to be on the mainland so I called my friend who lives on the mainland and always has impeccable nails. My friend gave me a number to call which I did; and with my appointment arranged, off I went to find this hidden guru (she operates from home)

Sat evening in Lagos

My friend is going out of town for a while and so we decide to hook up and catch up. I was given the choice of where to go, and so I picked ABIBIZ; A restaurant and bar which recently opened in Victoria Island, Lagos, owned by a friend of mine. It turned out to be an excellent choice (not that I was surprised though)
The staff are very courteous and eager to help. Not quite like the waiter in Wakkis in Wuse 2, Abuja who actually hit on me (lol) but that's a story for another day.

Words

More and more I have noticed how people tend to arbitrarily interchange words. Personally, I find it quite painful to read. (maybe it's the old age catching up on me. lol)
Well, seeing as we learn everyday, I have taken the liberty to put down my two cents.

Here are a few words which contrary to seemingly popular belief, ARE NOT interchangeable. (This list by the way is by no means exhaustive)

Expectations

'Sometimes we expect more from others because we would be willing to do that much for them'

I saw the above quote somewhere recently and it got me because for me, it is spot on!
A while ago I decided that in order for me to live a peaceful life, I would henceforth treat everyone in the exact same way that they treat me - I do not have children yet. If I did, it may be different - Anyway, this has indeed helped me greatly. It makes me feel better, even though it still does not protect you when someone who has treated you with kindness and respect in the past, for no apparent reason suddenly turns on you.

I am often amazed at how some of the people who demand the most from you are the least willing to lift a finger for you. Almost seeming like you exist in this world solely for "their" benefit.

When is enough really enough?

So there was a plane crash in Lagos - Dana Airline - which killed all 153 people on board and at least 10 people on ground. We were naturally all shocked beyond description. Shock turned into depression and anger for some and I believe I can say almost certainly that it saddened practically every Nigerian.


It has been two weeks since. There have been religious services held in honour of the departed, there have been TV programmes, there have been articles in the papers and on the internet etc. Well.....now what?


Slowly, things seem to be creeping back to business as usual. We are going back to our normal routine and in no time, something new will happen to completely take our attention and we move on with this incidence only a distant memory....until the next disaster happens to jolt our memory.


Church attacks have become routine; so much so that there is little or no reaction when the news breaks. When would we as a people have had enough and rather than having knee jerk reactions actually do something to stop the menace that has now become life as we know it?


We live in a society where we have to provide for ourselves security, power, water, roads....you name it. A society where people die because doctors are on strike, where someone is attacked by armed robbers and cannot access medical attention because doctors first want to see police report. Where you are trapped in your house by armed robbers and even if you manage to put a call through to the police, they ask you to come and pick them up because they are unable to fuel their vehicles. And yet our lawmakers and other custodians of our common wealth continuously rob us blind. We hear of billions and trillions of naira being misappropriated to the extent that it all seems so incredible.


I was personally heartbroken at the unceremonious collapse of the 'occupy Nigeria' - protest against fuel subsidy removal and bad government at the beginning of this year. I had hoped that it would have been a turning point in the governance of our beloved country but alas...


The sooner we realise that we have to take our destiny in our own hands, shape our future and be willing to pro actively take action to ensure we actualise our dreams, the sooner we will begin to record progress. We have to appreciate that sacrifices have to be made for success to be achieved.


I have since decided to play my own part by doing the little I can not to feed or encourage the monster of corruption in Nigeria. Little things like not giving/offering bribes, obeying the law, paying my bills as and when due, rejecting mediocrity, questioning and speaking up against poor service etc. This may seem small in comparison to the rot in the system but if even 60% of us did this we would without doubt have a much better society.

ESOHE

May 27th is special because it's my sister's birthday.


Esohe my first sister. The one I asked for. I have loved you from before you were born. That was because I desperately wanted a sister to play with; but I have loved you even more since you came into my life because you are the kindest, most loving, caring, giving and positive person I know. You radiate love in all you do. You are such a strong person that I often wonder how you do it. You never allow yourself to stay down. No matter what the world throws at you, you just pick yourself up and keep trudging on. You inspire me in so many ways and I just want you to know that I feel very fortunate that I have you in my life.


I remember our childhood years when we were in such a hurry to grow up! All the fun, laughter, tears and sometimes mischief (lol) Suddenly we are all grown up and living our separate lives, chasing our separate dreams. It now seems like such a distant memory when we would certainly go to bed in the same house and sometimes even in the same room! I remember when we would watch a scary movie and you would beg me to allow you sleep in my room and even though I would have been scared too, I would sometimes be difficult just to make it seem as though I was the tougher one hehehehe... I wish we could go back there even if just for a weekend. I really miss those days.


I want you to know darling that I love you now, and I will love you till the end of time. 


May your new year be filled with blessings more than you can possibly imagine and ALL that your heart truly desires. You deserve it and more xx

Precious Moments

Abuja: June 3rd 2012


I was with a dear friend for about an hour from noon. He had unknowingly or unintentionally annoyed me previously and so when I saw him today I was a bit cold towards him.
He had come to Abuja yesterday to attend a party along with quite a few of his friends. I met up with him just as he was trying to book a flight back to Lagos. He had tried a couple of airlines without luck - including my preferred one 'Dana Air' the flights were all full. The only available flight seemed to be the late evening Dana but that didn't seem suitable because his friend had to be at a function in Lagos at 4pm. The most ideal one would have been the afternoon Dana flight. Even though I know someone who may have been able to get them on the Dana afternoon flight, I just didn't bother making any attempt to help because I was in a bad mood. I sat there with them for a little while and left. Just as I was about to get into the car, my friend asked me what the matter was and I replied saying 'we would talk later'.

I got home and went straight to bed as I was not feeling very well. Only to be woken a couple of hours later, with the news that there had been a plane crash in Lagos - Dana Air from Abuja. Oh my God! My heart sank! I immediately called my friend and confirmed that he was fine but he apparently had two friends on the flight (May their souls rest in peace)

As the evening unfolded and I received calls from friends and family checking for my safety and as I also called friends and family, I began to reflect on what is really important. I thought about the reason for my annoyance at my friend and I realized that it truly did not matter in the least. I wondered how I would have felt had he been on that flight and I had wasted the last minutes I had with him bearing a grudge.

This incidence today has once again impressed upon me the need to focus on what truly matters and to try my best not to waste precious moments.

My heart goes out to the families and friends of all who lost their lives in the plane crash and the bomb blast today. May you all have the strength and wherewithal to bear this terrible loss.